Posted by TamaraJ on February 21, 2005, at 14:25:34
In reply to Re: how to cope and accept? » TamaraJ, posted by rainbowbrite on February 21, 2005, at 13:23:31
> Actually I made some progress on this, even though it was an accident I actually read a post in here, I thought I was in pscyhology, but I handled it.
-- Good for you. Baby steps are good :-)
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> Oh me too. I am really good at closing up. actions are good but what about all the horrible things you say to people in general. Or I should say in my life maybe 2 people? do actions take it back or do words, I guess when I think about it actions are stronger since words are over-used at times. btw im not a b**tch by any means I just get frustrated by certain people and say whats on my mind kind or not :(.-- I know you are not b*tchy :-) And, I am sure that the people in your life know that too. Sometimes our anger and frustration can be overwhelming and push us to the limit causing us to act out of character and say harsh and maybe hurtful things. I guess when you think about it, it hurts us as well because we beat ourselves up with negative self-talk afterwards. Although easier said than done, sometimes we just need to disengage and take a step back and out of the situation until we are calmer and can get our point across without being harsh and unkind. But it doesn't mean that one has to let go of directness and assertiveness.
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> you sure?? :-) thanks-- Well, if you are abnormal then so am I :-) Ok, maybe not the best and most flattering indicator! Oh well, I will revel in my abnormality!
Take care.
Tamara
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