Posted by TamaraJ on February 21, 2005, at 11:57:09
In reply to Re: how to cope and accept? » TamaraJ, posted by rainbowbrite on February 21, 2005, at 1:59:01
Its a haunting feeling that is very uncomfortable.
-- I agree. I can be uncomfortable and haunting, particularly when there are no concrete answers to the questions we have. There is no right or wrong way to think, feel, act or cope. I guess it is a matter of "to each her/his own" when it comes to grieving. I think though, through discussion with others, we come to some kind of understanding, and do what is most therapeutic and beneficial for our own individual needs and circumstances.
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> I also think strengthening relationships a little more to make them less superficial and more real is a wise move for me. And letting them know how I feel about them.-- Yes. But, IMHO, letting people know how you feel isn't just about the "I love you's" and the "you are important to me's", it is also (and, maybe more importantly) about the seemingly simple and inconsequential things we do that tell people we care. Sometimes it's about actions speaking louder than words perhaps. I have strong relationships with those around me who I care about, but I do have a strong, inherent tendency to close off at times. I am working on that.
> this makes me feel better, I have been feeling very abnormal becasue of this.-- I'll say it again - you are not abnormal by any means :-)
> Tamara, your posts are always so insightful :)-- Thanks. You are very kind. I thank you too. I have found this dialogue very helpful.
All the best to you, and take good care.Tamara
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