Posted by rainbowbrite on February 21, 2005, at 1:59:01
In reply to Re: how to cope and accept? » rainbowbrite, posted by TamaraJ on February 20, 2005, at 22:13:44
>-- Maybe it's just me, but I don't think it means that we should (or even can) walk around on eggshells trying to avoid never getting mad at the people we love. We are human after all, and anger and frustration are normal emotions in my mind. People are going to tick us off once in a while, no matter how much we love them, and we will say things that we regret. I have said (and say) things in anger that I regret. Perhaps what it comes down to is about being able to reflect on our relationships and know we always did our best to be loving, kind and respectful, and that the people in our lives know they are loved. And, we also need to be able to forgive ourselves for things said and done in the heat of the moment. You know, instead of dwelling on the negative moments in the relationship, focus on the positive aspects of the relationship. I don't know. Maybe that doesn't make any sense at all.
that made sense. and yeah its impossible to be nice all the time. Ive actully been trying. Not an easy thing to do! I agree I think this is something i should talk to a T about, when I get that sorted out. Its a haunting feeling that is very uncomfortable.
I also think strengthening relationships a little more to make them less superficial and more real is a wise move for me. And letting them know how I feel about them.
> I think it is a normal reaction. We all go through the questioning phase. For me, I think it is a natural and necessary part of the life cycle (as difficult as it may be).
this makes me feel better, I have been feeling very abnormal becasue of this.
Tamara, your posts are always so insightful :)
Thanks
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