Posted by Susan J on October 31, 2003, at 11:06:08
In reply to Re: I know, posted by jeff g on October 31, 2003, at 10:42:54
Hey, Jeff,
>>I told her I really hope shes not having sex with her new guy already and she evaded the question. From the tone of the conversation and what she said, I am pretty sure its going on.
<<I know it hurts. And for so many different reasons. Trust me. I'm 36 and when *I* broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years because I did not love him anymore, when he got into a new relationship and I knew he was sleeping with her, it still hurt. Even though I didn't want to be with him.>> Everyone I've talked to says shes making a bad decision getting in another relationship only a month or so after being in a 2 year, live together first love.
<< It may be a bad decision. She's young and will experiment like this. If she does not do some self-exploration and growth, though, it won't matter how many or how few partners she's had, she'll not be in a position to be a good healthy partner. Not for you, or anyone else.>>maybe now I can really just get over it...
<<Sometimes stuff like this helps you break away. I've always found that anger is an enabling emotion for me, while grief just devastates me.Thinking of ya,
Susan
poster:Susan J
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