Posted by dave m on January 4, 2004, at 4:08:36
In reply to Feeling so Much pain over Breakup.. please help, posted by jeff g on October 15, 2003, at 3:13:59
Hey Jeff,
It seems like you've been dealing with this for a while so you may not need this advice and have already moved on. You and I sound like we have something in common. She broke up with me around my b-day, around the same time in '03. I didn't live with my ex and I don't think she is seeing anyone.
It sounds like you just gotta let go, as hard as it is. Its like ripping off a bandaid, you got to do it fast and quick. Here's what you do:
1. Get rid of all the stuff that reminds you of her, pics, momentos, throw them away or put them in a place where you won't go look at them.
2. Dont talk to her. Doing that will give you false hope and/or you torture yourself by hearing about her new sex life. Make one last call and tell her that "you hope she is happy and wish he the best of luck", even if it isn't true, and say that you think its best to not speak to her for a while. Not for a few months at least. This will show her that you still have your pride.
3. This may sound masagonistic, but go do something "manly" or anything that will keep you busy. Lift weights, go climb something, hit some balls at the batting cage. Doing that will clear your head.
4. Hang out with the boys. If you don't have any male friends then get some. Hanging out with your family can help too. Go on a road trip. This will keep you from moping a round the house and you will have something else to think about.
Hope this hels from on guy to another.
poster:dave m
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