Posted by karen_kay on November 20, 2003, at 14:29:37
In reply to Re: Ok, did he handle this properly? consensual, posted by joslynn on November 20, 2003, at 13:10:29
> I hope I am not out of line in saying this, especially as a newbie, but for some reason the "Now it's consensual" comment you said he made gave me a little pink flag feeling. I don't know why and it could have more to do with my own stuff than you.
I too get hung up on the wording!!! And I appreciate the input! That is what struck me as odd, the wording of it. That is why I tend to think that maybe he gets a kick out of the whole thing. I do appreciate your input.
...but figuratively, the word to me sounds like something two people do together. "Consensual" is not something that one person has, it involves more than one person, e.g., the phrase "Consensual opinion." "Now it's consensual" to my ears would sound like he was not just saying my fantasies were ok, but that on some level, he agreed with them.
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>But, maybe he was just agreeing that it was ok to fantasize. But, I too favor that it was possibly improper word usage. Tends to get my hopes up:(
> (I don't even think he did anything technically wrong, but that word choice is not one I would have made if I were in his position. And of course I would be The Perfect Therapist, lol)
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>I agree that he didn't do anything technically wrong and it did have the desired results. And no, it didn't bring up any bad feelings at all. Feel free to speak up, even if your opinion differs from the rest. I thought maybe I was odd in thinking something was wrong with what he said. At least someone else agrees that he may have used different wording. Thanks for helping to put my mind at ease! Karen
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