Posted by crushedout on November 21, 2003, at 16:54:53
In reply to Re: Big news!, posted by karen_kay on November 21, 2003, at 16:17:56
Hmm, I'm guessing that was a coincidence that he ended the session early. But all you have to do is ask him. I bet he'll reassure you it had nothing to do with what you said. And if not, then you'll talk about why he was uncomfortable (this seems unlikely).
Yep, we get to say ANYTHING we want. It's really very exciting. We shouldn't hold back. We're doing this for ourselves.
I can't promise there's no such thing as inappropriate, but I'm guessing there is not. I think we should both just come right out and ask our therapists what they think, whether there are any things or subjects they don't want us to talk about, or WORDS even (sometimes I wonder whether I could be a little raunchier and less clinical). I'm betting they're going to give us full rein.
> Yee haw! Now I'm psyched to see him again! You mean I can say ANYTHING I want and not have to worry about being inappropriate? This whole time, I've had such a fear of not being the best client, but in doing so I've not being doing my part as a client. I've been holding back big time. Maybe it is time to start being honest. And I guess it can start with my fantasies of him, right? I shouldn't care so much about pleasing him. Or, better yet, maybe I'll be pleasing him even more by telling him what I really think. So, you promise, there is NO such thing as inappropriate? I would be so hurt if he tried to steer the conversation in a different direction. It would just cause me to close down again. One interesting note though, at the last session, when I admitted to my fantasies, he ended the session about 10 minutes early. Usually we go over. Is this strange? See, I pick up on stuff like this.
> Karen
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