Posted by crushedout on November 21, 2003, at 14:10:34
In reply to Re: Big news! » crushedout, posted by karen_kay on November 21, 2003, at 11:52:22
i don't there are any limitations on what you can say, and if there are, saying that would definitely be within the boundary. i worry whether there are certain things i shouldn't be explicit about with my therapist, too, but i think i can say anything i want to, really.
the boundaries are on our behavior (i.e., we can't run across the room and jump their bones), not on our words.
in terms of making them uncomfortable, i think it's hard to do. they're used to this stuff. i have a friend who tells his T *exactly* what he'd like to do to her sexually almost every session, and she just responds to what he's feeling the way a T should. she doesn't lead him on sexually -- she just allows him to express what his desires are and then they talk about them.
remember: you're paying *him* so you get to decide what you talk about. if you want to talk about your sexual fantasies about him all the time, that should be up to you (and it may in fact be very helpful).
just my two cents.
crushed
> > > > i think you definitely should tell him he was there and that he had one, too! hey, he CONSENTED to it!
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> >Right, but I'm confused as to where to draw the line. Is there a line? There is being honest and then there is being inappropriate, right? I mean, in real life I would make comments like that all the time, but to my therapist I would make jokes about that. But, now he knows I am being honest. I'm just not sure about where to draw the line. And if I am making him uncomfortable. Well, I don't care about making him uncomfortable. But, I wouldn't wnat him to say, "Now Karen, let's discuss something else." I might cry and I am not a crier!!!
> See what I'm getting at?
> Where go you draw the line?
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> > well, it's a special, meaningful moment, and it's a sign of growth for you. if he cares about you, he should be happy for you and happy to have been a part of your growth. he can appreciate your sexuality without crossing any boundaries he shouldn't. does that make sense?
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> <<Yes it sure does! If only he would cross those boundaries :) JUST KIDDING!!!! He's such a great therapist I wouldn't have it any other way!
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