Posted by whiterabbit on July 6, 2003, at 15:34:04
In reply to Re: I'm going nuts. rabbit/falls, posted by kara lynne on July 6, 2003, at 13:16:40
HE sounds like the pig to me. And the domineering mother is ANOTHER big warning flag - I'm not formally trained in psychology, but because of my interest in criminology I've read over and over that a lot of men in prison for violent crimes against women grew up with a controlling mother and a father who was absent or weak. Of course
not ALL men who were raised in this type of environment grow up to abuse women, but it's fertile soil.I've complained over and over about my husband's selfishness and neglect during our married life, which is now coming to an end. I felt miserable and unloved a great deal of the time because he seemed to resent being married. But, unhappy as I was, it was not a violent marriage. I couldn't have tolerated this under any circumstances. I grew up in a violent house and when I left home at an early age to join the military, I was grimly determined to never again live in an environment where I was subjected to physical abuse. And I kept this promise to myself.
Prehaps I am the one over-reacting or being old-fashioned and I would be interested in hearing opinions from other posters on this one. But it seems to me that any man who would say such hateful, vicious things to ANY woman, much less a woman he is supposed to care about, has serious emotional issues with women in general, not just you. He sounds like the type who is incapable of
a loving, respectful relationship and has a capacity for violence. Calling you a pig and a
c*** is unacceptable behavior no matter what the circumstances are, no matter what you did or said to him, there is NO excuse. And if, God forbid, you somehow end up married to this person, he may well treat this as a license to beat you like a dirty rug because you're his property now and it's his right. And with the difference in your physical size and strength, he could injure you
severely with not a lot of effort.Like I said, maybe I'm going overboard, but he sounds dangerous and possibly sadistic to me. From where I'm standing it doesn't look good, not at all. I'm glad you have a therapist to discuss this with...you be careful, girl.
Gracie
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