Posted by Solstice on November 9, 2010, at 1:20:45
In reply to Re: Along the same lines, posted by muffled on November 9, 2010, at 1:09:20
Muffled - when I read what you write... I am struck by what feels to me like exquisite
Poetry
Solstice.
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> In this way, we should develop better understanding, cooperation, communication, coordination etc.
> Yeah, there's fights still and allus will be I suspect, cuz they different and gonna want different things etc. BUT, the point is to NOT banish and further separate parts. The point is to LISTEN and work it out w/them.
> Thats how we got split in the first place....was parts got all pushed away.
> Banishing, shoving away is NOT good.
> Sometimes, a part get outta hand, or be around at wrong time, then ya, we NOW say, we say nicely that they can't be here right ATM and why, but they can come back later. They not banished for long time. Its just we busy and can't deal with them ATM, but we will.
> If behaviour gets bad, then we talk bout it. We try and figger why.
> We not shove them away (least not so often.....) cuz we learning that that just makes the MORE noisy and fussy.
> They be mnore quiet if ya listen.
> I didn't beleive T at first, but it TRUE.
> It quieter if ya listen.
> Sometimes they just scared and want to be heard.
> They don't wanna be alone, they scared is all.
> Same w/babble. Sometimes people just need to be 'heard'. They not trying to hurt, they just dunno what else to do.
> And blocks is an awful mean thing to do to a p[erson whats already hurting and is just reaching out, maybe not in the best way, but maybe the only way they know.
> Maybe they scared and hurt and blocks is just shoving them into the dark alone.
> :(
> How can we help them then?
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Solstice
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