Posted by Dinah on November 8, 2010, at 6:56:46
In reply to Bob,you admit it!!What we say doesn't matter to yu, posted by muffled on November 7, 2010, at 23:02:47
That's not the only message one could get from that post.
There are issues on which Dr. Bob has listened for a long time. He just doesn't agree. Listening doesn't mean agreement. On those topics where he has decided that his values suggest maintaining his current point of view, and posters suggestions don't include any new information, he is unlikely to change his opinion and protests are futile and can lead more to problems for posters than problems for Bob.
Don't you think it's possible to listen to another person, yet not be convinced that they are correct? It appears to me that posters are asking more than that Bob listen. They're asking that Bob agree. It would appear to me that Dr. Bob doesn't expect you to agree just because you listen, and maybe that's why he doesn't continue to explain.
I think I've talked you you quite a bit about negativity to Bob. Have I convinced you I am correct? I don't conclude you aren't listening or are being disrespectful. I conclude I haven't presented any information that you find compelling enough to change your mind.
I'm not saying Dr. Bob always listens or is never stubborn. But I am saying that sometimes people can listen, and not change their mind. Particularly if the same things are said over and over again.
Again, I ask you, do you change your mind about something based on the sheer number of times someone has disagreed with you? I wouldn't. And I have no expectation that it is likely that Bob will.
There is a difference between the facts and the interpretation we make about those facts. The interpretation is not fact.
The fact is that some posters repeatedly complain about blocks, and that Dr. Bob does not substantially change his block policy.
The interpretations speak to the state of mind of the interpreter, not the facts.
poster:Dinah
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