Posted by Solstice on November 9, 2010, at 15:25:06
In reply to Re: to stumble on magic, posted by Dr. Bob on November 9, 2010, at 10:31:43
Dinah:
> > You seem to allow discussion, without having any intention of changing based on it. Unless a poster is fortunate enough to stumble on the magic phrase that opens your mind to another point of view.> > I suspect you think of it as keeping the lines of communication open. But perhaps you could come up with a ratings system of how likely it is you'll change your mind.
Bob:
> All we can do is stumble along together and hope we find the magic that opens the other's mind. I wouldn't know how to rate how likely that is.
Bob - please re-read Dinah's first sentence.It's not about stumbling along until we find magic to open somebody else's mind to convince them "I'm Right!" I don't think Dinah's talking about changing you, or changing your values for Babble... rather.. I think it's about changing the manner in which those values are upheld. Let's dispense with stumbling along. The community and Bob have common goals.
i) less blocking
ii) less incivility in the first place
iii) incivility is followed by repair
iv) community feels safe
v) membership and posting increases
vi) Babble helps more people
Instead of magical stumbling and mind-changing, why don't we work together to create a structure for handling inevitable incivility in a way that maximizes its decrease, and minimizes community turmoil, disruption, and pain.
Suggestions have been offered by community members. Do you have any intention of addressing these things? If not, please say so... because I don't want to invest my valuable time and energy thinking about it if you have no interest. If you do - then let's get to work.
Solstice
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