Posted by muffled on November 9, 2010, at 10:54:38
In reply to Re: to stumble on magic, posted by Dr. Bob on November 9, 2010, at 10:31:43
I have a concern.
If the admin here(Bob) actually is reasonably consistantly present, then that is ok.But there comes problems, when the main person who controls so much, shows interest, gets everyone invested, then just POOF(speaking of magic...) disappears for long periods of time...
Now thats not such a prob is it?
The *prob* is, again, the inconsistancy. Cuz then he magically reappears out of the ether and starts suddenly changing things willy nilly.
He hasn't a 'sense' of the community because he is never there.
But the just drops in and thinks he friggin owns the place..(pun intended).
Reminds me of husbands that work away from thier families, the families learn to function as a unit w/o H cuz he not there. Then H comes home on leave(eg) and expects to just be part of the family.
But they have gotten used to it w/o him, and have to rearrange their systems of relating to adapt to his presence.
But then he goes again, and there's a hole :(
So they have to readapt. Then he back, and they readapt, back and forth, back and forth :(
What to do?
Maybe the H can ease in slow. See where things are at FIRST before he barge in w/disciplining the kids etc. Maybe consult w/wife to see where kids are at.
Work TOGETHER.
RESPECTFULLY.
COMMUNICATE.
Knowing the wife DOES have a better sense of the family unit as she is there all the time.
The wife, for her part helps the H understand and accepts him. And yes, corrects him.
My thots.
poster:muffled
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