Posted by leeran on June 5, 2003, at 5:03:22
In reply to my mom died june 3rd, 2002 and i forgot:mariposa, posted by lil' jimi on June 4, 2003, at 16:25:17
jimi -
out of respect, i shall reply in lower case, and it must be, for the moment, a quickie because it is 2:34 a.m.
i am so, so, sorry to read that you lost your mother and father in such a tragic turn of events. life can turn on a dime in a minute's time.
i feel the ache in your words and my heart aches with yours.
we are siblings in lexapro (versus brothers in arms). i continue to be amazed at the depth of what is shared and expressed on these boards. and i want to take this opportunity to thank you for your post that's way up there.
i've been so disconcerted here lately and hadn't even visited the boards 'til yesterday.
re: lexapro and experiencing - versus surfing - the pain . . . i know it has not dulled my own grieving process these last few weeks (and i'm glad).
i know i need to move in and out of all of this baggage in my holding area before i can board for departure.
i have wallowed, writhed, squirmed and rolled in my shock and disappointment these last fourteen days. at some point, the tears for this earth-shattering event will dry up.
my thoughts and prayers are with you as you traverse this difficult terrain. There's one quality in you I've seen more than any other these last few months: resilience.
If it's what you need, give yourself permission to deflate before you bounce back this time. I have found a measure of peace in surrendering to my sadness. I believe that in times of grief, our sorrow can be our friend. Our sadness allows us to feel vulnerable. In order for the grief to flow in its proper direction, a door must open once and for all. Losing a loved one, be it to death or physical parting, leaves a hole in our psyche. Ultimately, I believe our vulnerability is what makes us whole again. The jagged edges can never heal if we don't tend to that wound in the light of day.
it's late - and I'm rambling (and somewhere along the way I threw in a few upper cases), but I feel your loss (as I could tell you felt mine), and it was important for me to blurt this out right this minute.
As the man with the Corvette is known to say - take care. Take care of that which needs healing, 'lil jimi.
Signing off as your 10 mg. a day lexapro liaison with a penchant for alliteration,
Lee
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