Posted by kath on December 28, 2002, at 15:40:29
In reply to Tabitha, next time..., posted by Gracie2 on December 28, 2002, at 6:18:55
What a great idea, Gracie,
Tabitha - is it an option for you to think of something you enjoy doing & find out if there's a group of people doing it?
Sometimes local newspapers have a 'social' column where you can find out "what's happening".
What about getting involved in doing something that you are interested in, or enjoy - maybe even sorta "trick yourself" into going not with the purpose of meeting new people, but with the purpose of doing something a little different - just for the experience of it. After my first husband left me & my self-confidence was as low as mud & I was as lonely as anything, I forced myself to go to a few events. BUT the problem was that I was going TO MEET PEOPLE!!!!! I was too uncomfortable; didn't find anyone I felt comfortable with, etc. On the other hand, if I attended things because I was really somewhat interested in them, it was easier to sort of float into meeting people.
Volunteer work is great for meeting people.
I'm not sure of your situation. The things I mention take some energy, so might not work for you. Hope you don't mind me putting my 2 cents worth in.
Kath :-)
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> The next time someone invites you to do something that you might not be comfortable doing, it's perfectly acceptable to say, "I'll let you know," and even more polite to say, "I can let you know by tomorrow afternoon (or whenever)." This is a simple way to give yourself time to consider your options without feeling "trapped" or coerced into doing something you really don't want to do.
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> Works for me. 8-)
> Gracie
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