Posted by Alara on December 27, 2002, at 21:35:42
In reply to Re: I suffered through it, posted by Tabitha on December 27, 2002, at 19:20:46
> ignoring everyone's perfectly sound advice, I just decided to grit my teeth and go thru with it. There were a few moments of enjoyment.
>
> I am in some kind of wacky antisocial state-- I had to thread through a lot of crowded areas to reach the museum. Just going within 10 feet of anyone irritated me. Their voices, their cigarettes, their smells. I swear I'm not always such a misanthrope.Tabitha, it sounds to me as though you made the right decision. You knew what was healthier for you - to go outside of your comfort zone and force yourself to face your fears about being social. I've got to start doing more of that stuff myself. :-) The experience wasn't completely enjoyable but there were `a few moments of enjoyment'. That has got to be a start.
Please stop calling yourself `antisocial'. Substitute the words 'a person who is working on her anxiety about being with other people'.
It's hard to feel enthusiastic about mixing with people when fear rears its ugly head. It doesn't sound as though your companion was the most compatible one either. :-) Consider this as step one. Step two is to continue pushing your boundaries so that you eventually meet the kindred spirits whose company you really will enjoy.
Arggh..I am such a hypocrite. Alara, take some of your own advice for once...
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