Posted by mikhail99 on December 27, 2002, at 11:14:42
In reply to social zero, posted by Tabitha on December 27, 2002, at 3:26:15
> ugh, this is entirely my own fault. I accepted a social invitation that I'm dreading. it's a friend I'm not that close to, and I really dont' like her boyfriend at all, and we're all going to the art museum tomorrow and out for lunch. I used to be fairly good at saying no to things, but seem to have lost the ability. I even accepted a time that's not convenient for me. plus I don't want to eat in a restaurant at all, since I'm having so much GI trouble from strange food lately.
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> I know I"m in a state where I'm not going to enjoy this at all. I find myself babbling when I talk to her, because we're not really connecting. And the guy is just plain bitchy. He says the oddest, meanest things, with a big smile on his face.
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> no wonder i have so little social life. I don't enjoy anyone's company. I dont' know how people do it. everyone I'm around just seems to irritate me, drain me, or offend me.
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> at least i'll weasel out of the lunch.
Hi Tabitha, you sure described perfectly how hard it can be to do these things! I don't know how people do these things either.If you feel you must keep the engagement, at least at the museum you can wander away from them. It doesn't require a lot of discussion to go to a museum. Then you can tell them you're not feeling well enough for lunch.
And I hope the subject of your post doesn't mean YOU think YOU'RE a social zero! I prefer to think of us social anxiety types as more discerning! :-)
Take care!
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