Posted by karen_kay on November 21, 2003, at 17:58:01
In reply to Re: Big news!, posted by crushedout on November 21, 2003, at 16:54:53
I think it is highly unlikely he was uncomfortable as well, especially with his response. So, I'll not ask. It is not that important to me, just an observation. But, if he admitted to being uncomfortable in that situation I would purposely continue to bring up my fantasies during sessions in which I felt uncomfortable. That's the way I work. If you make me feel uncomfortable, I want you to feel the same. So, it is best that I don't know for sure. But, if you make me feel happy, I want to make you happy! Hmmm... maybe I should ask him why he thinks I do this. Wow, I'm really learning a lot from this experience!!
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> Yep, we get to say ANYTHING we want. It's really very exciting. We shouldn't hold back. We're doing this for ourselves.
<<Yeah, but there is SO much to say and so little time to say it.. It is so hard to know what is important... Like that comment I made to him really made a big impact both in and out of therapy. Who could have known? I just have a hard time judging what is important and what is not. But, I don't like to be steered away from discussing something either. And at this point, he doesn't ask any questions or try to control the conversation in any way, he lets me drive (which I prefer). He only comments and adds his two cents. I think I'm going to allow him to be on top for a while and see where that takes us. This could be fun.
> I can't promise there's no such thing as inappropriate, but I'm guessing there is not. I think we should both just come right out and ask our therapists what they think, whether there are any things or subjects they don't want us to talk about, or WORDS even (sometimes I wonder whether I could be a little raunchier and less clinical). I'm betting they're going to give us full rein.<<I just think that maybe I'm too inappropriate, because it *seems* like a professional setting. He calls me on it though. Oh, I hate it when he does that, and he knows it! He'll make innocent comments that I'll turn into sexual comments and he'll say "How do you mean?" and I just shut up. He knows how to get me to shut up super quick.
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poster:karen_kay
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