Posted by corafree on December 8, 2004, at 23:59:02
In reply to Re: Don't know if I can ADVICE PLEASE PLEASE, posted by partlycloudy on November 17, 2004, at 4:47:57
I am certainly not saying your post wasn't a generous and helpful effort to ease saw's pain, partlycloudy, because it is all in an effort to help saw.
Having lost my Dad in February, I feel not yet ready for 'closure.'
Closure does have different connotations for all and brings upon different emotions in all. For me, I guess it's just not right yet.
Prayers, gentle self care, keep warm, hot chocolate, chamomile tea, comfy wrap, little night light Sabrina, ... cf
> My sister remembers every detail about my dad's funeral; I can't even remember which cemetary his ashes were buried, much less the date of the service. I got through that day, but haven't the faintest idea how. I'm sure my brain took those memories and shoved them w-a-y deep so they wouldn't disturb me.
> Which isn't to say you wouldn't remember your dad's ceremony; I'm just telling you how differently my sister and I handled it.
>
> I think if you bring yourself to do it, you'll be doing a couple of things. First, you'll be honouring your dad's memory. Most importantly, you'll be bringing closure (how I hate that word) to your experience with your father. It did help me to think of the release from pain that my dad had when he died. He was so clearly suffering greatly, even with morphine on demand. I imagined his soul soaring freely, unbound by pain and loss, letting him find the peace he'd been seeking for so long.
>
> pc
poster:corafree
thread:416922
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/grief/20040811/msgs/426536.html