Posted by Dinah on November 20, 2004, at 20:30:23
In reply to I'm not going, posted by saw on November 18, 2004, at 0:32:40
You honored your father before he died. You honor his spirit. The body left is just the body. You might have made a different decision about disposing of the ashes. Scattering the ashes has a symbolism that some people appreciate and others might not.
My father is dying, and I have no intention of going to the funeral. My mother will, I'm sure, want to have a big to do. I'd like a private service. I'll let her have the service the way she needs it. But that doesn't mean I'm going to put myself through the ordeal of being social at such a time. Since I would never ever dream of letting my son go to one of the open casket funerals my family has, I'll just stay with him.
I'm not going to feel one ounce of guilt or regret about it either. What is between my father and I is just that - between my father and I. I don't feel like what I choose to do in public will in any way affect that.
poster:Dinah
thread:416922
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