Posted by SLS on September 29, 2004, at 7:10:00
In reply to Re: 12 step programs » tabitha, posted by Cass on September 28, 2004, at 23:11:55
> I still don't know a great deal about codependence, it seems like codependent relationships consist of a controller who disrespects the autonomy of the other person,
Not really. It refers to a relationship between the addict and the facilitator. The facilitator maintains the ability for the addict to continue their behavior. Both represent roles in a dysfunctional relationship. The addict is not necessarily a person who suffers from substance abuse. They can simply be the one bringing home anger every day and abusing the other members of the family physically or emotionally to displace it. Often, there is an element of control to the role of the facilitator. The addict becomes dependent on the facilitator for maintenance of the addiction (abuse) while receiving in return feelings of self worth.
That's a pretty lame attempt at an explanation. Sorry. But it serves to demonstrate that the dynamics of a codependent relationship need not contain substance abuse or disrespect by the addict for the autonomy of the facilitator.
This should do a better job of explaining it:
http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/codependency.htm
It is very cursory, but accurate.
- Scott
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