Posted by fayeroe on December 8, 2008, at 16:25:53
In reply to Re: Blocked for 2 weeks » BayLeaf, posted by lucie lu on December 8, 2008, at 11:14:10
> While I respect your compassion, BayLeaf, did you really read through *all* the threads over the weekend? There were numerous posts from SSSS in several different threads which seemed like sudden non sequiters, with all sorts of allusions to people needing to apologize, hating cliques, and a variety of similar comments. The ones in llurpsie's thread were the worst, vulgar, completely uncalled-for, off topic, and I thought, really disturbing. Unless there is something everyone else knows but me, which is entirely possible, these comments seemed like part of a determined and persistent attempt to engage one or more babblers in some sort of on-board conflict. And frankly, that made *me* feel unsafe. I am sympathetic to cries for help but there are OK and not OK ways to do it. Metaphorically speaking, pointing a gun at someone's head can also be seen as an obvious cry of help, but is it OK? I think that is the issue here - not whether a babbler deserves the help and support she seeks but how the request is made so that it is respectful of others and not disruptive of the rest of the board.
I may someday have to ask for help here and I'd like to know how to go about asking for it. If I am disruptive and rude..it might be due to the fact that I am helpless in controlling my behavior. If my mental health support board is made up of my closests friends and confidants,I might want to come here and get someone's attention..(in whatever way that I can handle at the moment)
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> I think this whole thing is really unfortunate and sad. I do feel bad for SSSS. But I also don't like to see the deputies put down for doing their jobs. Dinah also gave her a PBC warning on a different thread, and there were several places that they could have blocked her besides the place that Racer did. I also think that, while it may seem tempting in times of high emotion, dissing the board overall will do little to promote an atmosphere of acceptance, support, and respect and is generally counter-productive. IMO.I have a sense that has been honed for years and years in working with people with mental health issues. Sometimes a person can ask for help in a totally inappropriate manner. I'd like to see the hands of those who babblemailed or emailed her, please. I do not know her enough and wasn't even reading her posts until I saw the "bitch" one.
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> Lucie
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