Posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 9:54:30
In reply to Re: Blocked for 2 weeks, posted by llurpsienoodle on December 8, 2008, at 8:31:59
> In CBT there is a cognitive error called "Jumping to conclusions or mind-reading imagining what people think without any evidence".
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> It has to do with assuming people think the way we do. I don't think you two think the same way. Not that one thinks better than the other - you two just think differently. And that's OK.
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> Bay*Good point Bay. I think I DO do this at times, cuz I just dunno what the other is thinking, and in trying to understand I fall into cognitive error.
Maybe thats why we clash? I dunno? Cuz it is a two way street this jumping to conclusions error...
I wouldn't however say I have <no> evidence. I can see patterns of behaviour.
Also, the post to Llurpy was pretty blatant. If it were me, it would be a cry to block. Though when I used to do it, I would direct it at myself only, but I'd cuss to get a block.
SSSS has been here a long time and been thru the blocking mill B4, so she does know the rules.
She has struggles, she is in pain, I have no doubt of that.
But this is not the place to lash out at others in our pain.
We are all entiteld to feel what we do.
Myself included.
FWIW, I really do admire SSSS. I have known her awhile now. Thats what makes it so hard to not post to her, especially when I want to offer support. I hate to see her hurting. But there seems to be nothing I can do. It just somehow goes wrong.
Makes me sad.
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