Posted by muffled on December 8, 2008, at 19:46:50
In reply to Re: Above for all, but for Twinleaf, posted by rskontos on December 8, 2008, at 19:05:58
and I got the scars to prove it.
However, I HAVE learned from them...
I think it is important to know that online support, while wonderful, can only be an adjunct to IRL support. The IRL needs to be primary.
I agree, when a person is lashing out it would be nice to be able to help them. But I think it is a kindness to block as there's posts I have regretted posting when escalated that I wish I hadn't done. Once I am in that point of irrational anger, its hard on a board to try and talk me down, there is too much delay. Chat has been useful to me for that however.
I just dunno where do you draw the line for blocking? Am I allowed to call eg. Dinah and *ssh*l* cuz I am mad at her? Is that acceptable? esp if I am escalating and am likely from my past history, to continue? to worsen due to the slow response of the board? Should I not be stopped? When I used to get to that point there was nothing anyone could do. I would end up blocked, and madder than ever, but I would deescalate eventually and it would be OK. I am still here. So in my case, being blocked, ultimately protected me, and of course any poaters that might be triggered by my behaviour. And I am sure I must ahve triggered and frightened others in the past. For that I am sorry.
Also,now, when blocked, I think you can still chat, so you ar not completely ostracised.
I haven't b-mailed SSSS cuz she asked me not to. She b-mailed me after that, but I did not b-mail back as I didn't want to go against her wishes. I just deleted it after a brief scan. I don't remember what it said. I dislike bmail as I have seen too many stung by it, and then there is background stuff going on, and then it shows on the boards and I dunno WTF is going on cuz I not in the loop. I think its best, for the most part, to be kept on the boards, cuz then the group can help regulate responses. Anything I write is there for all to see, and judge if they wish, and hopefully let me know when I stray.
So I do NOT beleive in long blocks, I di not see their purpose. But short blocks I think are one solution to this problem.
As for SSSS I find it hard to beleive she doesn't know that many care for her here. She is a longtime poster with many friends. She occassionally has to take a break, but thankfully has returned. I am eager to hear (but no, I will not post, no matter how happy and exited I am for her :-( )
how things progress with the new T , she sounds very good.
I dunno if I made sense.
I just don't want noboddy to think I am bad is all, I get scared that people think I am cold and hard cuz I am dispassionate lotsa times.
I feel like I keep saying wrong things and I dunno what they are. I dunno if I even making sense.
M
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