Posted by AuntieMel on November 5, 2004, at 14:51:02
In reply to Lou's reply yo NIkkiT2 » NikkiT2, posted by Lou Pilder on November 5, 2004, at 13:53:22
I'm sorry to butt in here, but it seems to me that Nikki has extended an olive branch here and I think it would be wonderful!! for both of you - and the entire board - if the two of you could kiss and make up.
I'm writing as a friend, but one that is sad about the entire misunderstanding.
I understand fully the hurt you feel and the images you see. When I was in Poland the first time, the only thing I really, really wanted to do was visit Auschwitz/Birknau. I felt it was a duty of mine to witness it. Nothing can truly explain the impact that had on me, but the closest I can come to it is to say I felt a pure murderous rage.
But is it really important for Dr. Bob to make a determination on it? Nikki has already said she posted what she did out of anger and (I believe) apologized. Dr. Bob doesn't usually even get involved when that happens.
So, I guess what's left is for you to understand what it is that hurt her about the first post? I can understand that. She was very upset when she wrote it, was talking as if she had no life to live, revealing her true emotions to the world, and the next thing she knows there is a request for the post to be examined for civility. I think if I were in the same position I would be hurt, too, and I don't hurt easily. If not hurt, I would certainly be thinking there was always someone looking over my shoulder.
But still, the olive branch.
Mel <speaking as a friend>
ps to Nikki: If I am correct (good chance I'm not - I seem to be missing the mark lately) the part he was noticing was the use of the word 'b*st*rd' and 'h*ll.' So, if that is true, and if Lou really wanted to know if that was acceptable in the context that it was used, could you think of a way to word it that wouldn't be hurtful??
poster:AuntieMel
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