Posted by Sad Sara on November 5, 2004, at 13:42:26
In reply to Lou's reply to Sad sara » Sad sara, posted by Lou Pilder on November 5, 2004, at 10:46:53
But do you mean that it doesn't matter that she got hurt from your postings because they were no meant for her, they were still about her posts?
I think the issue should conentrate on not hurting other peoples feelings... whether you are doing it by following rules or not, don't you think too? If you can avoid someone elses feeling by overlooking minor violations on the law, isn't that better? Or if you still wants to proceed with the law, do in such a subtle way the the person it matters does not get hurt? I think for example it could be possible to ask dr. Bob whether a post is violating the rules in such a way that the person that might be violating the rules does not get hurt... maybe Nikki would have gotten less hurt if you described what you thought was wrong with her post in your first complaint, or maybe considering e-mailing the matter to dr. Bob first just because this time the person you suspected violating the rules was someone who was a bit 'instable' mentally... I know that you don't have to do it that way according to the rules, but just maybe in some cases even when you follow the rules you can hurt someone...
This is very messy, I am sorry. I am just trying to point out that maybe it would be just as good if the rule was 'please try not to hurt someone whether you are following the rules or not'. I don't think you were deliberately hurting this girl, but I don't think she was deliberately violating any rule either....
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