Posted by special_k on March 28, 2006, at 23:19:09
In reply to Re: Porn...what's the big deal? posible trigger » verne, posted by Dinah on March 28, 2006, at 22:48:55
Really.
I didn't mean for anyone to feel hurt or accused or ashamed or anything like that.
Some things can be hard to admit to... I have lots of things like that. Things I'd never ever ever talk to anyone about IRL because I would feel such shame... And I have talked about a lot of stuff like that on the boards over the time I have been here. A lot of it... And typically other peoples responses to my disclosures have been helpful. Validating. I feel less alone with what I have shared. And I feel less ashamed with what I have shared. But othertimes... Well sometimes things don't go that way. I think it is because... Sometimes peoples sensitivities / issues clash.
With respect to this issue... I have talked about my feelings on it a couple of times now. Over on relationships. And one time things did go pretty badly and I think that someone I was talking to felt quite hurt by what I said. I didn't mean to hurt... I didn't (and this time around too) I didn't phrase things very well...
:-(
And I'm sorry for that.
I guess it is about clash of the issues.
For people who have been abused and treated like an object... I think it is fair to say that those are the people who typically have very strong feelings about pornography being (potentially) harmful.
For people who have been feeling ashamed about things... I think it is fair to say that those are the people who typically have very strong feelings about pornography being perfectly fine and normal or whatever.
And sometimes people need the former feeling validated...
And sometimes people need the latter feeling validated...I don't know.
I get to thinking about eating meat again...
Sigh.
I'm sorry for hurts... Never meant to hurt... But I was a little concerned about Milly.
But I didn't mean to do that at the expense of other peoples feelings.
I'm sorry.
I don't think Verne said anything wrong...
I'm sorry.
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