Posted by alesta on April 27, 2005, at 19:19:32
In reply to Re: spoke too soon.............., posted by woolav on April 27, 2005, at 12:57:39
> Now my husb thinks/believes that i had an affair. I didnt, but i dont know if he can get past it. I posted a msg under psycho babble just now,that may explain more about why this all happened. But I think that my marriage might be over because of it..I think (know) its due to my own self destructive mental issues. Its as if I wont allow myself to be happy. I guess thats why I hate myself and wish i were dead. I dont want to hurt my daughter bc she needs me..but I dont seem to be getting the help i need from my docs and if I cant get it there. i dont know what will become of me....
> it just keeps getting worse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i totally agree with larry and other responses..first, let me say that i'm not judging..i know we all do the best we can. with that said, i feel that you need to take the focus off of yourself and your feelings, and place the focus on your husband's feelings..you're facing some consequences right now and you need to "suck it up" a little bit here right now..be strong, you can handle this..and, if you love him, do *everything* in your power to help him deal with his feelings, and possibly saving your marriage in the process. maybe you could ask him what he needs from you..and that you will do anything to make things right. good luck. with a little compassion and outer-focus on a positive outcome, things may work themselves out. try and be positive.:) giving in to all the "oh, this is so horrible" thoughts are going to make things many times worse. be well. :-)amy
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