Posted by Larry Hoover on April 25, 2005, at 11:47:31
In reply to Yet another issue................., posted by woolav on April 25, 2005, at 10:23:58
> Is this a forgiveable thing that I did???????????
> SYes, but not on your terms. It must be on his terms.
I strongly suggest couples counselling. You will probably hear about this behaviour far, far more than you will be comfortable hearing about it, but that's the nature of the game. He has to find a way to forgive you, (acceptance, in other words), and that can only come after he processes his grief. He has definitely lost something.
And you must figure out exactly why you did this, or you will have learned nothing. And, that must include confiding those reasons to your husband.
This will not just go away, unless your marriage does first.
Lar
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