Posted by broken on April 25, 2005, at 11:47:27
In reply to Yet another issue................., posted by woolav on April 25, 2005, at 10:23:58
Is it a forgivable thing? I'd say yes, ofcourse it is. Is it going to be forgiven? You know that better than anyone here.
From my point of view, if this happened in my marriage... If my wife wants to have a drink with another guy, that's cool. (Yes, our marriage is "different" than alot of others) If she tells me about it first, no problem. If she kept it a secret, it would be a huge problem. My question to her would be "Why couldn't you tell me unless you planned on something I would not approve of?"
The trust in my relationship would literally take months if not longer to re-establish. My pet peave is lying or hiding the truth. You screw up, tell me, we'll work it out somehow. Lie to me, and we might work it out, but it's going to take 10x longer for me to get over than it would if I had been told instead of finding out on my own.
Your husband may be totally different. I am just giving an example of my feelings and reactions if I were in that situation. I'm not "accusing" you of any kind of a lie. If it were my wife, I would certainly perceive her as hiding the truth.
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