Posted by pinkeye on March 8, 2005, at 17:42:22
In reply to Re: :-) » pinkeye, posted by alexandra_k on March 8, 2005, at 16:32:52
Well, I do think you are really really smart and clear. If not now, you will find a way to cure yourself. I am sure of that.
Maybe your therapist was a go - by - book therapist and he overdid the part of trying to change you all the time. Maybe all of them did.
I can fully understand how just accpeting you and not trying to change you all the time will end up giving more empowerment to the client. Then the client can choose when he/she wants to change and what he wants to change. Ultimately we are the ones who can really know what is good for us, and what we would like ourselves to be. If a client wants to be more accepted as she is, rather than change into something better, I think the therapist's job then become more of a validating the lcient and accpeting the client instead of trying to change the client. I am sorry to see that your therapist didn't have the common sense to give that to you.
My ex T had lot of common sense to supplement what he learnt in therapy, so that was probably what helped.
Next time you try a therapist, mabye you should judge them by whether they have common sense - irrespective of whether they are CBT or psychodynamic or anything.
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