Posted by shrinking violet on August 15, 2004, at 20:54:12
In reply to Re: Are relationships with T's real, or not?, posted by tinydancer on August 14, 2004, at 15:51:14
>>In the last discussion we had, I told him how much it hurt. That I couldn't understand how I could like him so much, and feel like there was such a fantastic connection, and his response was, "Why can't I like you so much right back and feel the same towards you?" He has been trying to illustrate that just because we can't have a relationship outside of the therapy room doesn't make the relationship we do have less meaningful.
Nice summary...I think that's what my T keeps trying to get me to believe. But then I question her motivation.....is it really true and she's trying to get me to acknowledge it also, or is she trying to get me to acknowledge it and feel it so she can use it (i.e. theoretically it might make me seek similar outside relationships....which, it wouldnt, but I know that's a commonly used technique in therapy).
>> The bottom line is that my T has always respected my feelings, he isn't afraid of my feelings, and has allowed me to have those feelings and bring them in full force into the therapy room. (One of his favorite things to say, "Bring it on!")
He sounds sweet. You're lucky to have him.
> But the most important thing I want to stress is that the relationship is REAL. If you feel a connection with her, a closeness, you feel that because it is reciprocated! Do you feel close and feel connected to people that don't like you? Never. It's easy to question the nature of it when it seems so confusing, but try to believe in your T. She sounds great!Wow, thank you for validating that for me. And she is great.
Thanks for your response!
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