Posted by rubenstein on August 14, 2004, at 18:06:55
In reply to Re: Are relationships with T's real, or not?, posted by tinydancer on August 14, 2004, at 15:51:14
I am also so gald that you brought up this topic. Although I am a musician, a good portion of my being likes to be very logical and orderly about things. Thus the fact that I know that my therapist is supposed to act a certain way bothers me becuase I don't know if it is real or not. I always want to play it cool, and act as if the relationship doesn't matter as much as it does to me for some reason. I don't knwo if anyone saw "The Village" but in it one of the characters comments on how one's lack of actions sometimes means that they care and think about things more than if they actually act out and do something about it. I especially related to this, because I feel that I often am not as open about my feelings towards therapy and my therapist because of the fact that I care. IF one didn't care, one couldn't be hurt by the other's answer. Ahhh...but if one does care, to let the other person see that she cares and cares deeply could open that person up to hurt. Of course in the end, I have realized that it is the inaction in life taht actually causes the most pain, but have I done anything about it? no....Perhaps next session... He always wants to talk about the theraputic relationship, maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to let him know that I actually cared. even if it will eventually end....
sorry for the rambling
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