Posted by karen_kay on November 19, 2003, at 21:37:02
In reply to Re: Ok, did he handle this properly? (long, kinda?) » karen_kay, posted by shar on November 19, 2003, at 18:58:37
> I would vote yes. He handled it properly. It is out in the open--a big part of therapy. I always see female therapists, but, if you can feel safe masturbating to a fantasy of him, that is a LONG way from feeling abused by early sexual experiences....and feeling safe is ALWAYS far better than feeling abused.
>Is there a reason you always see female therapists, if you don't mind my asking? I always see male therapists, but it is because I want a daddy. Feel free to ignore this question if you wish.
I agree that he did handle it properly, but I would feel more comfortable if he would have just left it at "You can fantasize about whatever you wish," and not proceeded to give me permission to fantasize about him. I just feel that in doing so it is allowing me to continue with the fantasy. I have faith that he knows what he is doing. Guess I'll just have to wait and see. But, I'm dreading the next appointment. I feel like a real jerk! There's beign honest and there is crossing a line. And I'm not sure which one I did...> We work out these things in different ways. It would not (imo) be good to have sex with your therapist.
*No worries about this one... I had a crush on a boss in the past, and he responded. I ran the other way!!!! Yucky! I want a daddy, but am confused as to what a daddy is really like.
But what goes on in your mind when you masturbate is yours and yours alone. (tho I may get a pbc for saying so, even god has no business there.)
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Here here!!
> The most healthy part is that YOU SAID SO! Kudos to you for that!Thank you :)
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