Posted by rayww on October 8, 2003, at 6:35:13
In reply to still can't let go, posted by hurt on October 5, 2003, at 12:55:37
Dear hurt, When I read your post the word that came to mind was "abuse". I just read a similar story on flaylady.net. This person says abuse is the root of many evils, from our overweight, to our messy homes, to lack of self love. She goes on to say "men and women react differently to abuse. Men act out or rebel against the world when they have been hurt, either by hurting others, blaming the world, or by becoming control freaks. Women turn their anger inward toward themselves by overeating , trying to make people love them by being perfect or by not feeling worthy for good things in life." She then says she is thankful for every bad thing that has ever happened to her because it made her the person she is today. ANd, she ends by talking about god breezes. "Imagine the old north wind puffing out his cheeks to blow a breath your direction. If you have your sails up, you can catch the breeze, if you don't, you will sit still in the water. It is the willingness to catch the breeze that makes the journey pleasureable."
While you are waiting to heal, I recommend getting on board with flylady.net (Fly stands for finally loving yourself) It was recommended to me by a writer here on PB, and has truly been a god breeze for me.
poster:rayww
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