Posted by fallsfall on October 6, 2003, at 7:34:36
In reply to still can't let go, posted by hurt on October 5, 2003, at 12:55:37
Your situation sounds very painful. As much as you miss him, he doesn't sound like the man who could make you happy. And your misery sounds like it is "out of proportion" (my therapist's words) to the situation. For me, that always means that the current situation is reminding me of an old, painful situation. My current pain is in response to the old situation. If you can figure out what in your past is being brought up, that can help to defuse the pain.
Read the thread above "Hopelessly missing him", I think that you and Kara are in similar situations. There were also threads on Psycho-Social-Babble about her issues.
Hang in there!
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