Posted by Heather66 on September 10, 2003, at 18:56:32
In reply to Re: Being Alone » Dena, posted by Susan J on September 10, 2003, at 15:29:52
I must admit I was not sure what you were talking about earlier until you asked the question specifically step by step to name a pain - one that is not the main one - and I can see there is a bit of value in that. Is the goal to then focus on the present? When the telemareketing calls never end and I get them calling over and over - am I supposed to focus on how angry I am that these people are calling my house and I have no control over it at all. Am I supposed to be extemely angry only at the telemarketer now and not be angry and depressed that my best friend is now gone for four years and my life is miserable without him?
Or if I take a physical pain - then am I supposed to focus all my energy on the fact that I stubbed my toe on the weight bench (that I never use) again. And then cry from the pain in my toe instead of cry about my ex-best friend and lover?
Maybe a couple more steps spelled out simply will help.
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