Posted by Susan J on September 10, 2003, at 15:29:52
In reply to Re: Being Alone » rayww, posted by Dena on September 10, 2003, at 14:38:46
Dena,
> I'm feeling confusion/fear/reluctance/conviction... My priest's wife (whom I spoke with right after the service) told me she's concerned about the amount of time I've been spending on the internet (including, probably especially, participating on these boards). Now, lately, since the miscarriage, I have spent a great deal of time reserching the causes of miscarriage, etc. But she's addressing a deeper problem: my obsessive-compulsive tendencies. I don't even want to go there. I've always known I've been rather OC, but I thought it has balanced out since I was healed from bulimia.
<<I just read this and was wondering if your increased time on the Internet is all that bad, really? If you've just had a miscarriage, you much be feeling so many different, intense emotions, including MAJOR grief. We all cope differently. What's wrong with losing oneself in the Internet for a bit, or with trying to gain some control over the situation by researching causes, etc., so that you can do what you can to prevent similar tragedies in your life?I guess the question is, do *you* think surfing the net, or any other behavior you exhibit, is negatively impacting on your life or emotional well-being?
> My priest's wife (she's really my spiritual mentor), has suggested that I stop participating with this board. I've certainly entertained the thought myself, many times, especially when I've been blocked. But I'm feeling torn... I've made some connections with folks on this board that I'm reluctant to let go of.
<<I don't know you at all (and I'm fairly new), but what makes you want to leave these boards? I dunno, I've hit such a low point right now and feel like I've overburdened friends with my problems, that I really value the emotional support I get on these boards. I wouldn't want to see you, or anyone, lose that.I'm sorry about your miscarriage. A friend of mine just had one at 5 months, it was a molar pregnancy. Don't know if you've heard of that, but it also can cause cancer in the mother. She and her husband buried their baby just a few weeks ago. It's all heartbreaking, and you are in my prayers.
Best wishes,
Susan
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> Oy vey. I resist having yet another label put on me. But it rings of truth. Yuck!
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> So, that's my emotional contribution to this effort.
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> Any thoughts? Suggestions? Tips? Etc?
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> Shalom, Dena
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poster:Susan J
thread:257875
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