Posted by Solstice on November 29, 2010, at 14:36:37
In reply to Re: sore spots, posted by Dr. Bob on November 29, 2010, at 1:15:02
> > > Of course there would be less need for administrators if posters helped each other stay civil.
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> > This phrase has been historically provocative. It pushes on sore spots. I'm curious about why you used it? It has not worked in the past.
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> Sometimes sore spots need to be massaged to be loosened up. :-)
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> Bob
True.. but I'm wondering if it feels like a therapeutic 'massage' when the massaging is done by the one perceived as having inflicted the injury in the first place? Maybe in that case - rather than it being a massage.. it feels more like another assault? Perceptions do count - even if not always 100% accurate. Maybe to avoid unnecessary inflammation, any massaging of sore spots is better left to others.. or left alone to heal on its own. I think this might be an example of the insensitivity to the community that Muffled referred to. Without cultivating an attuned sensitivity to the community, you might be walking into a china closet.. and end up (unknowingly) behaving like a haphazard bull... causing unnecessary damage and further injury.Please give the point I'm trying to make some self-reflective contemplation.
Solstice
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