Posted by twinleaf on November 28, 2010, at 16:08:46
In reply to Re: our roles..., posted by Solstice on November 28, 2010, at 11:45:50
It's true that the ideas about blocks and civility aren't exactly new, and, really, how complicated can they be, but I think that you are bringing something really valuable. You are taking it as a given that it should be "win-win" each step of the way. Up until now, we kept hearing, and posting ourselves, "it's Bob's site; he can do what he likes, or "if you don't like the rules, don't post here.".You are saying that it's OURS, and that the feelings and wishes of everyone are important. And I think you are being heard - at least a little. You also identified the role that community stress plays in the amount and nature of posting. While I think we all sort of sensed that, it's very helpfto have it identified more clearly. It is probably the single most important reason for the marked decline in posting volume.
I think I'm seeing some subtle change here already. In particular, Bob is responding to some, though not all, of the posts directed to him. No matter how brief, responses can convey his recognition and respect - vital elements in all successful communities.
It is going to be the times when Bob does not respond which will be challenging. It isn't easy to avoid feeling ignored or even insulted when this happens. Because it has been his habitual way of dealing with difficult issues here, it will probably take time to work through. But if you can stick to your great way of doing things, I think you can help make a wonderful difference here.
Having had a terrific Thanksgiving with our son, daughter-in-law and entrancing 2-year old grandson, my husband and I are going to slip off now to a neighborhood Vietnamese restaurant for Pho. He assures me that a bowl of Pho will instantly erase any prior dietary lapses!
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