Posted by alexandra_k on June 13, 2009, at 20:45:15
In reply to Re: Balancing acceptance and change » alexandra_k, posted by Deneb on June 13, 2009, at 20:32:59
> I think people mean well too. It is just hard when my manifestations of distress are so distressing to others.
Yeah. And I don't think that you mean for them to be distressing to others - but sometimes they can be for others depending on their issues. Hard to know what to do about that, though. It would be a shame if you (and others) didn't have a forum where they could express their distress. It would be a shame if others didn't have a forum that was safe for them to read without feeling distressed. I guess we just do trigger warnings as best we can...
> I think I need to realize when I am having thoughts of ODing etc. that I need to stop and dig deeper into why I am having thoughts thoughts. Then instead of posting that I want to OD or whatever, I post about what it is that is upsetting me.Ideally, sure. In practice it can be really hard, though. Sometimes it takes me a few days - sometimes it isn't until the distress has basically passed that I can figure it out. Sometimes language kind of fails and it is hard to know what to say. Hang in there.
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