Posted by sunny10 on April 14, 2005, at 14:02:28
In reply to Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) » sunny10, posted by Susan47 on April 14, 2005, at 13:20:44
If people NEVER question themselves, that is no more healthy than those of us who do way too much of it...that's just another type of self-delusion!
There's GOT to be a healthy medium somewhere and you, me, and AdaGrace have to find that and create a healthy kind of boundary to be able to keep that happy medium once we find it!!!
Being not-selfish enough is just as bad as being entirely selfish. Believe it or not, I've been told that just as many people get hurt in the long run either way... mostly because us "unselfish" people mostly just take it and take it and take it until we explode and our loved ones are doubly hurt and confused because they were used to being able to count on us remaining doormats...we "rock their world to pieces," too- in the long run...
Either way, no one wins.... happy medium is what WE need.... if I figure out how to accomplish that, I'll let you girls know!!!! And I hope if you figure it out, you'll let me know how!!!
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