Re: ((((AdaGrace))))

Posted by sunny10 on April 14, 2005, at 12:37:11

In reply to Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) *poss trigger* » AdaGrace, posted by Susan47 on April 12, 2005, at 11:33:40

change sometimes hurts all parties during the process, but leaves all parties to deal with it as they will. You will deal with pain your way, and others deal with it in their own way.
You cannot be responsible for the reactions of others. And it doesn't sound to me that you are "reacting to anything negatively"... it sounds like a change is long overdue and an action is necessary to change your present state of mind.
One thing to keep in mind.. latching onto pc's ideas, too.. is that you need to prioritize and change ONE thing that seems to have the biggest beneficial impact. Just because it feels like everything is broken doesn't mean that it is.
Sometimes it is just a gradual accumulation of all things stressful that lead me to feel as it sounds you do right now. It all built up slowly but surely, maybe you can attempt to make changes slowly but surely and bring down that stress level so that not EVERYTHING feels so bad.
Honestly, in my ever-so-humble (and I've been know to be downright stupid) opinion, I would make a job change first if that was part of my unhappiness. And think of it that way. A job change. Not "quitting"... you are not a quitter, you are an able-minded mover and shaker who needs to think of her own needs; thus a change can be made.
I wish I could tell you to "act happy and then you'll become happy", because T's have been telling me to do this for 20 yrs and it hasn't worked for me yet. I say "act (make changes) positively to benefit yourself and maybe just the pride of accomplishing something for YOU will lift your spirits a little".
It is way past time for AdaGrace to take care of AdaGrace's needs. Your track record has proven that you would do nothing that would UNNECESSARILY hurt someone else. But sometimes a little hurt is necessary. Haven't they been teaching YOU that for years? Time to turn the tables, sweetie...
I'm glad you're reaching out to post this stuff; I know it's difficult for you.
kisses,
sunny10

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Happiness still exists for us » AdaGrace partlycloudy 4/11/05
Re: Happiness still exists for us » partlycloudy AdaGrace 4/11/05
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((((AdaGrace)))) *poss trigger* partlycloudy 4/12/05
Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) *poss trigger* » partlycloudy AdaGrace 4/12/05
Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) *poss trigger* » AdaGrace Susan47 4/12/05
That's OK - I was just nervous, that's all. (nm) » AdaGrace partlycloudy 4/12/05
Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) sunny10 4/14/05
Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) » sunny10 Susan47 4/14/05
Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) » Susan47 sunny10 4/14/05
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Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) sunny10 4/15/05
OK, who told you.... » sunny10 partlycloudy 4/15/05
Re: ((((AdaGrace)))) » sunny10 AdaGrace 4/15/05
Re: OK, who told you.... » partlycloudy AdaGrace 4/15/05
I think they are only available » AdaGrace partlycloudy 4/15/05
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Re: I think they are only available » sunny10 partlycloudy 4/15/05

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