Posted by lucy stone on September 11, 2004, at 7:34:37
In reply to Re: Physical attraction and body type, posted by alexis6 on September 11, 2004, at 1:56:16
Alexandra, Alexis has said some great things about transference. I think you expect your tranference to be sexual since you say that you are not attracted to men smaller than yourself. Sexual transference is one kind, but as Alexis said parental transference is more common. Since the term is most often used in psychoanalytic orientations the two things of course get intertwined. In other words, you do not need to see you T as sexually attractive to experience transference, and as you work with your T you may experience sexual transference with someone to whom you may not normally be attracted, like to a woman even if you are not a lesbian. I am very tall, 6'2", and my analyst is just one inch taller, but I once had a great deal of transference both paternal and sexual to man much shorter (5'7") and older that I am, even though in real life I am not attracted to men so much shorter that I. He figured in many graphic sexual fantasies. He terminated me abruptly when he decided to sell his practice and retire and I was completely devasted. When I looked for a new T I deliberately sought out a male T older than me and I know I was trying to recreated that experience. In retroscept I know that I was looking for a paternal figure. Over the years we have explored why I did that, what I wanted from him, what it would me if I got it, what I didn't get from my father, ect., ect. It has been enormously helpful to me because throughout my life I have experienced transference with the males around me in ways that were very harmful to me especially to my professional life. I no longer experience the same intense transference to my analyst and I doubt that I will ever again have the problems with male authority figures that have plauged me all my life.
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