Posted by inthegloaming on March 15, 2004, at 8:32:11
In reply to Re: dealing with it all... may trigger, perhaps » inthegloaming, posted by fallsfall on March 15, 2004, at 8:02:20
>It sounds like your social world doesn't allow you to avoid it as easily as mine does. But, I believe that everybody should be able to make choices about whether to have sex or not (I believe this even when people are married, but some other people believe that if you are married that you have a "duty"). Can you change your environment at all so that you are freer to make your own decision? <
well... i'm in college, so sex is a big topic of debate/discussion/etc. i guess it is everywhere, siiigh. i mean, i think it's good for me for it to be around as an idea--i'm young yet and need to 'get over' this. i think that when i meet the right person who is kind and loving and gentle with me then maybe it'll seem more 'real' and more safe.
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> Are you in therapy? Can you talk to your therapist about your issues with sex?yes, and yes. she's been very helpful so far, but there's only so much i will say, you know? some of it just... ughn. won't... come out of my mouth i guess.
> It is possible that something did happen when you were little. It is also possible that this message about sex was taught to you by your parents, and that you never personally experienced the control and violence that you speak of.
>no... no i'm certain that it didn't come from my folks. they were nothing but loving and caring and open... that's why it's so perplexing.
thanks tons for your post. hope it all works out for you too.
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