Posted by Susan J on October 23, 2003, at 11:05:57
In reply to Re: Stop Violating Boundaries? Long.... » Susan J, posted by Dinah on October 23, 2003, at 8:42:38
>>My mother is a boundary breaker, and someone actually asked me to tell her to step back. I just looked at them bug eyed and told them I couldn't control my mother's behavior with me, I couldn't possibly help them.
<<Thanks, Dinah. Do you know *why* your mother does those things? Just curious. I sometimes feel like I've stepped over the boundary with questions I've asked friends, but I've learned to drop it immediately if they don't really respond. Lisa just goes right at it anyway....> Have you tried the yelp? An office mate of mine used it to great effect with a touchy colleague. If he touched her, she'd yelp and jump (loudly and violently) and say he startled her.
<<LOL! That's a good one! She doesn't touch me too often, but next time, I'll try that.>>Can you make your desk uncomfortable to be next to, piles on the floor, etc.?
<<I could, but then I'd be stressed from the mess. Although it's messy right now... :-)Thanks again. :-)
Susan
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