Posted by Fi on January 28, 2002, at 16:46:15
In reply to self-hate as the easy way out., posted by paula on January 27, 2002, at 23:02:56
You've just done something very healthy and very brave, in reaching out. It is a risk, as others have said, but I've found that I cant predict the results- some people I didnt expect to be supportive were, and vice versa. Once you've tried them out, you know who to try another time.
Self-hate is very hard to switch off, but isnt usually an accurate assessment, and its exhausting. If you can 'turn the volume down', or allow yourself an element of doubt that the self-hate beliefs are valid, then that would be great.
But *congratulations* again on giving it a try.
And yes, I'm pretty hopeless seeking help too. Do it a bit but aware of (misguided) relief if I manage to get thru anything really upsetting on my own. Tho I'm sure I would get thru it faster and easier if I swallowed my pride (or whatever) and phoned a friend.
Fi
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