Posted by Katey on January 27, 2002, at 22:56:26
In reply to Therapist wants Suicide Agreement (not to), posted by Shar on January 25, 2002, at 22:12:48
just thought i would weigh in on this, as its become a pet peeve of mine. i havent had the exact circumstances that you find yourself in Shar, but in an odd, similar way, i have.
when i was seeing my T, i had an extremely low week. this was at the very beginning of the short lived relationship, so i in no way felt comfortable contacting him outside of our appointments. at any rate, i spent a day as a walking dysfunctioning suicide trap. i worked myself out of it, so i was basically fine by the time i got to my next appointment.
i told my T about it and his reaction was so inappropriate to me. i had written a few suicide letters, just to people that i cared about, as a way to help myself. he read those and had some unkind words in terms of those. when i've been suicidal, once i climb out of it, i dont go there again very soon, he apparantly, didn't believe me.
he spent a long time preaching to me about the evils of suicide and how wrong it is to feel that way. he ended the appointment with 'can we make a deal, that you wont committ suicide?'.
the next week i had to break my appointment with him, because i was seeing my pdoc for the first time (gp's orders). when i called him from my pdoc's office, he made me rather angry. when i told him where i was, the first thing he said is 'you didnt try to kill yourself did you?!?!'. needless to say, as soon as i was medicated, i made my next appointment with him my last appointment with him.
In other words, i cant say that i'm much of a fan of contracts like that.
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