Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2001, at 5:23:27
In reply to Re: Dependence on therapists, posted by Cecilia on October 22, 2001, at 4:05:43
> It`s a no-win situation. I tried to avoid getting too dependent on my therapist out of fear of being abandoned. Eventually, she abandoned me because of my inability to become dependent.
Cecilia,
You are right. I have a tendency to try to face the lesser pain now to avoid the feared catastrophic pain later. Unfortunately, I also have the tendency to decide the pain now is too much and that I'll just hope the feared pain never happens. And in true obsessive fashion, I can't decide between the two ideas, so I go back and forth causing maximum fear and pain from both sides. I think too much, and not well enough.
Dinah
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