Posted by Cecilia on October 22, 2001, at 4:05:43
In reply to Re: Dependence on therapists » Mair, posted by Dinah on October 21, 2001, at 18:05:46
> > Dinah - I'm picking up here a little late. Why do you feel less safe with him? Is it something he did, or is it that you're more guarded because you're concerned about your dependency?
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> > Mair
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> I guess I was a bit unclear. He hasn't done anything wrong. I just recently realized the extent of my dependence on him and it scared me. I've talked to him about it and he thinks I will outgrow it as I get stronger and it was a common thing in therapy and not to worry about it.
> This may not make any sense, but it seems as if my emotional self and my rational self are not very well connected. My rational self is attempting to undermine my dependence on my therapist by undermining the sense of safety it is based on. My emotional self seems to need the sense of safety and undermining it is making me more depressed. So I am second-guessing the wisdom of trying to prematurely end the dependence. How rational is my rational self being? Now I know I'm not making any sense.
> Sigh.It`s a no-win situation. I tried to avoid getting too dependent on my therapist out of fear of being abandoned. Eventually, she abandoned me because of my inability to become dependent.
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